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Some of you may be thinking, "I'm better off just parenting on my own". If it is safe for your child to be with your co-spouse, you're wrong. According to research, children are better adjusted in several different domains when their parents have joint custody, compared to sole-custody. They are better adjusted in their relationships, self-esteem, emotions, and display less conflict. Therefore it is crucial to try to co-parent, for your child's well-being (3).
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Divorce can bring on immense amounts of stress and problem behaviors in children. Here are a few tips to help alleviate this time for your child and become the best co-parent you can be.
Work as a team
Children in joint custody have shown better adjustment and well being (3). Therefore it is vital that you strive to be the best team you can be.
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Be civil while communicating, this can alleviate stress for your child
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Keep transitions between houses lowkey and easy ​
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It is important​ to allow your child to see their co-parent frequently unless the divorce was caused by some abuse or neglect (9).
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Compromise- Be flexible and choose your battles
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Do not make a big deal about tiny issues​
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It is very common for children of divorce to have a decrease in the quality and quantity of time they share with their noncustodial parent. As a working parent, your child is likely to experience decreased supervision. This can lead to "academic failure, low self-esteem, and misbehavior" (2). This is another reason why having joint custody can benefit both you and your child. If both parents play an active role in parenting, you can avoid many of these consequences and balance your work/family life.